Thursday, July 31, 2014

This Girl: Patrice Patrick

I have a little secret to tell you. I am that friend. The one who discovers something new or reads something great who then proceeds to tells everyone all about it.  I'm that girl who sends massive amounts of emails and group texts to my friends about some new product/book/program that i've discovered.  I realize that this can be a bit annoying from my friends stand point but if you look at it from my point of view then maybe you'll understand. 

 i have a hard time keeping amazing things to myself, I want to share them with everyone! I want everyone around me to partake in the same elating emotion that i'm feeling. So naturally I want the same thing in friendships.  I love it when my friend groups intertwine, when a buddy from college meets up with a rock n roll friend on tour eight states away, I mean it's the best!  The connectedness of it all is fascinating to me, it reminds me that the world really is a small place and why it's so important how we treat one another.  And in case you hadn't figured it out yet KINDNESS ALWAYS WINS.

Soooo because you let me rant about that I thought I'd incorporate a new element to my blog where I introduce you to some of my AMAZING friends, I'm calling it: This Girl-This Guy.

So without further ado meet my gorgeous friend Patrice Patrick!

I know what you are thinking "Wow Victoria I love that you are friends with a supermodel!!!!!" I mean isn't she insanely beautiful!?  Well I'm here to tell you that I've probably never met anyone more beautiful on the inside as well as the outside than this girl.  I think she is the type of lady who is  found only in the bible, and possibly sports illustrated swimsuit edition, let's be real here. She is what I like to refer to as hot and Godly, a heavenly combination.

But looks aside this girl has TALENT.  A phenomenal writer who works incredibly hard in television production, is a youth pastor and documentary filmmaker. She has many qualities that you are hard pressed to find in Los Angeles these days.  Besides her beauty and talent I think the thing I love the most about her is her kindness.  I've never left a coffee date without feeling less than 100% loved.  She has taught me more about the kindness of the Lord for myself and for others in the last eight years than anyone else, and that is life changing.  You leave her presence feeling encouraged, loved, believed in, and championed for, she is a walking love bubble and it's amazing.  Oh yeah she also has a way of cutting away the fluff and getting straight to the point, a quality i deeply respect, I like my friends to have a little sass. ;)

(Working Those Award Shows)

(Being the boss)

(With her youth group)

So if you find yourself on a street corner next to her introduce yourself and give her a hug, your life will most definitely be changed.  If you are interested in reading more about her life and what she loves then visit her blog: Puerility Vol.1 

Simply put This Girl is remarkable!


Monday, July 28, 2014

Finding Freedom from Jealously

Let me share something that the Lord taught me a few years ago that is fundamental to warding off jealousy.  

Celebrating the individual 

Did you hear me?  I said CELEBRATION (i.e. Partying/Praising/Rejoicing)  

Shocking right?   Well not really if we actually think about it.  

Jealousy is defined as:
 resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself.

So naturally the devil (who is a liar) will want you to give into feeling resentment over someone else's success, he will trick you into believing that you have power when you feel jealous, that it's a good thing.  But I'm here to tell you it's a trap.  In the moment you might feel validated or powerful or even "right" but those feeling can nestle deep inside you if you let them and turn into bitterness and anger and insecurity. 

So be on the up and up, be on the offense instead of the defense when you see your best friend holding that hotties hand or celebrating their new job promotion.  Don't hate. Celebrate! (<---- totally corny i know but hey it's my blog so i can write what i want).

I'll share a little story.  ALL of my friends are  INCREDIBLY talented in their chosen field, they have made the sacrifices to live in Los Angeles, and this city is hard to live in (hence why i'm moving after 10 years...hello Nashville...but more on that later).  So it's natural to have some jealousy between us, or at least that's what I thought, until I reached a point in my friendship with two of my friends where I felt a strange tension.  I mean these girls are "it" they are the real deal, they are phenomenally talented, gorgeous, kind, hip, loving, (sorry fellas they are married) and they sing better than any two people I know.  They both have been in the business since they were teenagers and for me having moved to LA not knowing that you could even be a professional musician as a teenager I was extremely intimidated. But I sucked it up and forged a friendship but I wasn't fully addressing these feelings that would rise up, the feelings of comparison and jealously, I just tried to ignore them. 

Then we went on tour, and there is nothing like spending every waking second on the road with someone you want to be like to get those negative thoughts flowing. I mean the comparison started, the jealously was flaring, the pity party was in full effect inside of me, if only i was HER and not ME.  
It was after this tour that I realized I needed to get to the bottom of this and figure out what was going on inside of me that was causing me to not be able to celebrate alongside of her.  I mean she is one of my best friends!

It all basically boiled down to trust.  How much did I trust that God had created something wonderful, talented, beautiful inside of me?  At that point I was thinking he hadn't created any of those things, but he was here to tell me that he had.  And as I started to allow him access to those insecurities I saw him reach in and rework that skewed mindset that I had been believing about jealousy being the correct emotion.  And he taught me to celebrate!!!!  

And I can honestly say that nothing is more fulfilling than to CELEBRATE other's victories!!  Recently both of my friends had a show where they played back to back sets, if I had chosen to walk into that room being jealous of their success instead of celebrating it then I would have cheated myself out of one of the best nights of my life.  I was fully able to love on them and be the proud sister that I am, and to me that is the best feeling in the world!

Don't think I'm gonna let you go without telling you who these amazing ladies are!!!!  Let's celebrate them together, you can find me in the front row! ;)

Stevie Scott of Machineheart 

Maybe their is someone you need to celebrate instead of hate?  Do it today and watch your life totally transform!